I've had guys come into my practice wondering where the woman they met is. The woman who'd have sex anytime, anyplace, anyhow. Motherhood changes all that for most of us. Being free and being a parent are contradictory roles. Being a parent often means being anxious, on guard. Being a lover requires the ability to let go, be free, get lost in the senses.Read More
Here are 10 of the most common reasons that women lose interest in having sex with their partners.
1. They don't feel valued.
When we don't feel like our partner values us, resentment can easily build. A person who feels taken for granted is not likely to feel warm and affectionate. A person who feels angry even less so. A common understanding of job satisfaction is that people are usually happiest at work when they feel appreciated and seen for what they contribute. Relationships are the same. We are spectacular at showing appreciation and demonstrating our admiration for our partner when the relationship is new, but increasingly become complacent with this as time passes.
2. They don't feel desirable.
For many women, sexual desire hinges entirely on feeling desirable. In relationships where a woman has diminished sexual desire, the partner has usually done all that they can to show her how beautiful and sexy she is. Sadly, regardless of the fact that her partner is incredibly attracted to her, she does not feel attractive. If she doesn't believe that she is beautiful, if she doesn't believe she is sexy, then she is going to have a hard time enjoying physical affection with her partner. Allowing herself to really embody those qualities of BEING and FEELING beautiful, erotic, and sexy, is crucial for desire.Read More
I was getting my yearly exam when my doctor asked "What do I tell all these women who have lost their sexual desire?". He explained that it is by far the most common complaint he hears.
So, how to address it? Well, anyone who works in sexual health understands that there is no pill, no well laid out treatment protocol. And anyone who has struggled with this problem knows that best of all!
There is no way to overstate how many couples struggle with this. And sadly reawakening erotic desire does not usually come easily. It is often a long, drawn out and tedious battle. A battle that some couples lose by either learning to live with it (miserably) or by splitting.Read More