Dating sucks these days.
That’s what I hear again and again.
not everyone says it exactly that way, sometimes there is more cursing. And sadly, more hopelessness.
I get it though, having been in that situation at 36, after my divorce.
Dating in the era pre vs. post smartphone technology seemed drastically different. Until I said “nope” and deleted the dating apps.
now, I absolutely see people finding love online. These are tools that can help, but we do need to give ourselves permission to stop using them when they become destructive to our peace- and our dream of what could be- in the love we seek.
Something I notice is that our experience with dating apps often highlights the worst of what we can encounter in our quest for a relationship.
We get to flip through profile after profile, message after message, from people who have no idea what they really want beyond ATTENTION.
Nothing at all wrong with desiring attention. But a lot of that is all take and minimal give. It’s wanting the validation and sexy fun vibes. The wanting to be wanted. But not actually wanting any sort of real life- real reality- attachment to another person.
Because that would require reciprocity. A connection that flows in two directions.
And honesty. And building trust over time. And showing up over and over.
I mean, a lot of times just asking someone to get coffee after weeks of chatting it up can get a ghost reaction.
Have you ever wondered why we put more thought and effort into planning a wedding than we do preparing ourselves to find the relationship of our dreams?
Seriously, we will spend months or even years planning the perfect wedding down to every detail.
Sometimes this works out, but sometimes it leads us to being in the wrong relationship with the wrong person for the wrong reasons.
I know from experience.
Now, I ultimately don’t regret that. There were lessons to be learned, healing to be had, and most of all an incredible daughter that needed to come into being.
However, I knew I didn’t want to do that twice.
And I don’t want you to either.
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Dating with intention can be a game changer.
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